The other evening I was trawling through Twitter when I came across a thread that started with a simple reiteration of a question in response to a dad blogger: “Who’s our favourite dad blogger?”  The thread grew. But this isn’t a post about that particular thread. What that thread did, however, was highlight something that I think is quite special. What caught my attention was the fact that dad bloggers are more than happy to applaud other dad bloggers; more than happy to vocally support each other by extolling not only their posts about parenting, but their approach to blogging and, importantly, their support of other bloggers.

To Dads Who BlogSo, where is this post going? Well, it’s not just to spotlight the love shared on Twitter. After all, we see that a lot in the parenting world. What To Dads Who Blog is about is an appreciation of all dad bloggers out there. Let me explain further. Since joining the dad blogging world I’ve been surprised how many dads out there are sharing their emotions and family lives with the world. And the number is growing. Undeniably so. This surprise may have something to do with my upbringing, because I was not brought up with the idea that it was fine for guys to share their emotions so openly. The male role models in my life were somewhat distant characters who left parental things to the mothers and grandmothers. They were often closed books. Being open with my emotions was something I had to learn for myself. And something I had to learn to be comfortable with doing because it was somewhat frowned upon. But that’s just my story, and, I would suggest, a hangover from society when I was a kid in the ‘70s.

But having kids has helped. As with changing messy nappies, when there’s no time for a light-hearted approach to cleaning up a baby who has smears up their back and down their legs whilst you’re gagging on fumes that could put a military grade gas mask to the test, or skipping down the street with Fidget (she’ll be five in March), and singing Frozen songs as we go, I have had to adjust to fulfil my role as dad. An adjustment I was happy to make. My inhibitions, or self-consciousness have taken a back seat. The kids’ needs and happiness comes first. And that was never just going to be mum’s responsibility. It has been a learning curve, to say the least. Having kids meant I had to step outside my comfort zone in many ways and into the realm of ‘shared’ parenting. The realm of being a father, a parent, a dad.

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But the support dad bloggers have given to the blogging aspect of my parenting journey has enabled me to be comfortable with my blogging self and the wonderful subject I have chosen to blog about: my two kids, Fidget and Little Man. Especially in light of the cynicism I received from some male friends. Friends who questioned my blogging topic. Friends whose thought was that if I was going to blog I would blog about golf, football, or any other interest common to our circle. Now don’t get me wrong, I enjoy those things and they are topics I could write about, but I love my kids and family more and wanted to write for them. Hence the focus on parenting. My friends truly thought blogging about parenting would be a lonely place for a dad.

But there are lots of dads out there sharing their thoughts, trials and tribulations of parenting and are comfortable doing so. They catalogue the ups and downs, the ins and outs and do it extremely well. But what I was never aware of until I joined the blogging world was quite how supportive and collaborative dad bloggers can be. On several occasions I have witnessed dad bloggers going out of their way to make a concerted effort to ensure that another blogger succeeds. Now that’s wonderfully encouraging for all. In our fast-paced soundbite cynical world it’s an especially generous thing to do.

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But that just appears to be the dad blogging community. We could just put this altruistic propensity down to a case of common interest. Now undoubtedly common interest is a key factor because it’s dads supporting dads. But classing it as the only factor would be an oversimplification of something more. Most dad bloggers I have interacted with are of a broader kind. They are focussed on family, their children and their children’s future, because their children are their reason for blogging and, I would suggest, life. They often demonstrate a vociferous sensitivity that leaves the old fashioned perceived dad ‘norm’ floundering in its wake. But most of all they talk and write as men who are comfortable in their dad skins. They are truly parenting and happy to talk about it too. You can read and feel the passion in their posts. They may write in different styles about a thousand different parenting topics, but they have something in common no matter what the topic: their voice. They write from the heart and share feelings without prejudice. They tell stories that inspire and conspire.

They are proud dads who have found a commonality and camaraderie beyond topic or theme. Their blogging community has become a friendly and genuine support structure because they have gone out of their way to make it so. And it’s a wonderful community to be a part of. A few examples of this are the Facebook groups such as Dad Bloggers and UK Dad Bloggers and the Blended Parent Network. They are blogging groups where support is freely given.

So to all the dads who, whilst living in this cynical world, are still able to dip their hearts in ink and share, I salute you.

 

 

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